We are entering into 2nd quarter of year 2011. Once again, our school will celebrate Mother’s Day in concurrence with our Family Day on 30th April 2011 at KK High School’s Multiple Hall at 8.00 a.m. We look forward to see you at the abovementioned event.
Parents, please note that our 2011Mid-year Evaluation is set on 2nd Week of May and follow by the Parents and Teachers Week on last week of May 2011 before ending our Mid-Year School Term. We shall update parents on your child’s progress based on their evaluation results.
Bringing out children's better behaviour is easy if you have easy children. It can be more testing if you have challenging kids or when you are raising active toddlers and feisty teenagers with plenty of ‘tude (attitude).
Research shows that those parents who are most successful at bringing out their children's best behaviour use a variety of strategies, rather than one or two.
They also get help when they need it, whether sharing the parenting with a partner or calling on broader family or friends for support. Sometimes taking a break is the best strategy to use rather than get a locked into power struggle with strong-willed kids.
Start young. Even toddlers understand the difference between your facial expression and tone of voice when you are pleased and when you are displeased. Be emotionally open with your children, right from the start. Reward your little one with lots of big smiles and hugs.
Build a base. During their first years, children want very much to please their parents. Take full advantage of that time to build a base of good behavior. Although it takes additional time to talk to and teach young children how to care for their belongings, be polite and respectful, help with basic chores and think of other people's feelings, that time is well spent. Your reward will be children who, as they approach their "tween" and teen years, respect your authority and know how to behave.
Expect the best. Let your children know that you think that they are good, capable people and they will be. Children believe what the adults in their lives tell them, so it is important not to berate or belittle them.
1. Be a guide. Your children will not automatically know what you expect from them, so you must tell them. Ask your toddler to help you pick up toys and allow him to fold washcloths as you do laundry. Encourage your school-aged child to help rake leaves and give the dog a bath. Make schoolwork a priority and provide them with a space and necessary supplies to complete their homework.
2. Set a routine. Children do better when they know what to expect. If possible, try to have a few routines that send signals to your child about what is expected. Decide on a time to do homework assignments--right after school is best--and try not to interrupt that time. As evening approaches, get into the habit of helping your children to wind down and be ready to sleep. A warm bath or shower, a light snack, toothbrushing and a little time to read works well, but the specifics matter less than the notion that you do pretty much the same thing each evening.
3. Practice firm kindness. When your children misbehave (and they will), they will need to be reprimanded, but with care and tenderness. Be firm, but kind. Remember, their behavior may have been bad, but they aren't bad.
4. Follow through. Children learn quickly, and they will be on to you immediately if you make idle threats when they are naughty. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Follow through is important in both discipline and rewards. If you tell your child that she will not be able to watch television if she does not clean up her toys, you must not change your mind. Likewise, if you promise her an outing to the zoo for bringing up her math grade, you must be sure to take that zoo trip if her grade improves.
5. Rewards work. Call it a reward or call it a bribe, but offering something that your child enjoys in exchange for behavior that you enjoy is a system that works. Promise that you'll take a family bike ride once the dishes are done or that your child can have some fruit salad after he finishes his veggies. Rewards are wonderful motivators if you use them wisely.
6. Catch them in the act. When you see your child behaving well, mention it to them. Say, "You were so good at Grandma's house today. You are really getting to be a big girl!" or "I noticed that you took the garbage out already. Thanks for doing that."
7. Talk things out. Look for opportunities to discuss desirable (and less than desirable) character traits with your children. Talk about the behaviors of television and movie characters, as well as that of your child's peers. Discuss how people's actions affect others and encourage your children to draw conclusions and consider consequences. Helping them to sort out choices in hypothetical situations will prepare them to make their own choices in the real world.
8. Pay attention. Children, like all of us, need to be acknowledged, so they will find a way to get your attention. Be sure that you give them plenty of sincere praise for their good behavior or they will certainly misbehave. To a child, even negative attention is better than being ignored.
9. Set an example. Be honest, helpful and responsible. Your children will learn more from your actions than they will from your words.
Quick Tips:
· Be sure that you are an authority figure in your house. Children need guidelines and it is up to you to set and enforce the rules.
· As your children mature, increase their freedoms. Along with freedom comes responsibility, however, so be sure to explain that privileges will be removed if they fail to comply with your rules.
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