Greetings Parents / Guardians,
We are pleased to inform that the school has opened up its 2010 new and existing student enrolment. We would appreciate if parents could kindly let us have your confirmation soonest possible as registration will be opened up to the public after 31st July 2009 on a first come first serve basis.
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The recent rapid changes of weather had caused the outspread of influenza even hard to control. Therefore as a precautionary measure and for the safety of all children, we would like to remind parents to keep your child at home whenever he/she has a running nose, fever, chest cold or other contagious diseases until full recovery.
Life is not a popularity contest, but your children will require reasonable social skills to get along in families, schools and in the workplace. Although parents should be taking the major responsibility for teaching those skills to their kids, teachers will automatically be involved in guiding social skills in classrooms and school hallways. Other adults, peers and the media also dramatically affect children in their social interactions. Here are some foundational suggestions for teaching your children social skills.
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Teaching Social Skills
Dr. Sylvia Rimm
Early Social Skills – What Are the Basics for Young Children?
Beginning basic social skills teach children to interact with other children and adults. Sharing is probably one of the most difficult ones to learn since young children are so egocentric. By age two the word “mine” becomes important in their thinking, actions and vocabulary. Children have to learn to share attention, time, talk and toys. Because young children can’t put themselves in other’s places yet, they learn this sharing by simple rules like “take turns,” “raise your hand before you talk,” “form a line,” “don’t hit, kick or bite,” “use your words,” “use good manners,” “follow the teacher’s instructions,” “be kind,” “choose an activity or toy to play with,” “put your toys away,” etc. These only name a few behavioral instructions that children will hear in their daycare, preschools and primary grades, but in preparing children for social environments, parents need to teach these skills at home to help young children feel more comfortable in social environments.
Young children also need to learn appropriate assertiveness skills. These are more difficult to teach and harder to learn. Asking a teacher if they can use the bathroom, do a different activity, play with another child or requesting that a child share a toy, play with them, or not touch, hit or take a toy away from them are social skills that children must learn to initiate. In order for children to learn to be assertive, parents will have to resist doing too much for them, or they won’t learn to speak up for themselves.
Children who feel comfortable with these rules and confident with assertive skills feel more self-assured in their school world and with their friends. You’ll need to be patient. These skills are not automatic, and children only learn them gradually. If they learn them well, they’ll be better prepared for the later social skills that involve much more in depth understanding of others in their world.
The Four R’s for Teaching Early Social Skills
During the preschool and primary grades, because children are very concrete in their thinking, you’ll need to guide them with four R’s – Repetition, Rewards, Role-plays and Reading. Parents may wonder how many times they’ll have to repeat their reminders to their little ones to say please and thank you before those words become automatically attached to their requests and their appreciations. Perhaps it will take several thousand repetitions before your children proceed in the world with good manners.
The second R stands for rewards, which encourage learning. While you won’t want to provide your child with money or gift rewards for appropriate words or sharing, you can reward with words like “good sharing” or “nice asking.” These will encourage those polite words and actions. If you’re having difficulty explaining to your child about sharing when she has a play date, that’s a time you can try the third R and do some role-playing. You can say, “Pretend I’m you and you can pretend you’re your friend, Julia.” In the role play, you can say, “Julia, you’re company, so you can pick what we’re going to play with first, and later I can pick.” That can begin teaching your child how to be the host, to consider others and to begin to understand empathy.
The fourth R stands for reading. There are many books for young children that teach social skills. Books abound that explain fears, kindness, sibling rivalry, making friends, not hitting, sharing, understanding differences and many other social-skills topics. They’re colorful and interesting to children and as you read to them, your children absorb important social guidelines.
The Basics for Tweens and Teens
The social skills for tweens and teens become increasingly complex. Communication, collaboration and competition are crucial. Kids also need to learn sensitivity and resilience, kindness and assertiveness, empathy and humor, independence and appropriate conformity, and how to become interested and interesting. Same-gender friendships continue, but relationships with the opposite sex become increasingly important. Peer pressures extensively affect children's social skills during these years, and parental controls decrease as children have more freedom and choices.
Teaching Later Social Skills
Parents and teachers are no longer the only teachers. Kids look toward peers and the media for social lessons. They imitate television and music role models as well as their peers, but caring parents and teachers continue to play a crucial role in guiding their kids, so don't give up on your important leadership. There are still the 4 R's. Kids may now call your repetition, nagging or lecturing. Your praise continues to reward your kids, but they seem more ambiguous in their response. Role-playing can continue to be very effective with tweens and teens, and there are many excellent self-help books that kids can select and read to themselves. Magazines provide plenty of social-skill information as well, but you may not approve of all their messages. Listening to your kids and their friends, sharing life experiences and being supportive become your most important tools. This is an important time for parents to play their leadership roles as coaches instead of judges. Guiding without continuous criticism is tricky, but more effective. Plenty of conversation while doing things together helps prevent the lecture format. Game playing, including board, card, outdoor games and even walking or hiking, increases opportunities for personal communication and fun. With it all, you have to state your values clearly and know that children hear what you say, even when they roll back their eyes.
